I’m a perfectionistic perfectionist.

I don’t want my children to grow up in a world that is perfect.

I think they should grow up feeling a sense of insecurity and anxiety about the world, a sense that the world isn’t always perfect and that it’s okay for us to get frustrated.

It’s okay that our dreams don’t come true, I think, but I also think that if we let that anxiety get the better of us, then the world doesn’t make the best world for them. 

This year, I was in the middle of preparing to celebrate my 40th birthday, and as the months went by, I started to think more about what I could do to improve my quality of life. 

It started with some very basic changes.

I changed the lighting.

My room is bright and warm, but it’s hard to get a good night’s sleep because I’m so busy with my work.

So, I changed my lighting.

It used to be that when I was doing work in the office, I had a light bulb hanging from my ceiling.

It would be on for a few hours every morning, and then it would go out.

It was really noisy.

I was always annoyed that I couldn’t just turn it off.

I had to constantly turn it on.

So I changed that and I changed what the lightbulb was going to be for.

I added a little white table lamp to the ceiling, and I put in a few extra white lights that I wanted to use.

I’ve always been fascinated with what happens when you put light bulbs into a room.

And I’ve thought about that a lot, because I think a lot of people have had a very difficult time with their own personal growth.

When you have a difficult time, it makes sense to try to find out what’s working for you.

That’s what I did.

It took me a while to realize that this room is the perfect room for me.

It feels like I’m at home in my own little world. 

I’m a lot more content, but also a lot less stressed out.

I get a lot out of my job.

I’m happy and fulfilled. 

My family is happy and content. 

People ask me what I would do differently if I were a perfectionism perfectionist, but that’s not really what I’m thinking about.

I do know that I have some strengths and some weaknesses that are important for my life.

But I think my biggest problem is my own self-esteem.

When I have a problem, I look at myself and I think “I’m not good enough.”

And then I start blaming myself.

I start questioning myself, “Is this what I really am?” 

That’s a very common complaint that people have about perfectionists.

And in my experience, the people who are perfectionists tend to be unhappy and self-absorbed, and that can lead to anxiety, and it can make you feel guilty and anxious about what you want.

When a perfection is in your head, you start to believe that you are so perfect that you have no other options.

It can become very destructive.

I know that that’s what people often think of when they think of perfectionists, but the truth is, a perfection isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

There’s no right or wrong way to be perfectionistic, but there’s a lot to be learned from people who have a lot going on.

I am so grateful for the opportunity to share what I’ve learned with you and to show you how to be a good perfectionist in your own life.

And if you’re looking for some other advice, I’m sure you’ve seen some of the things I’ve shared on the TalkSport blog. 

If you want to read more about perfectionism, you can check out the following articles:  Why I’m not a perfectionIST: What I’ve Learned from My 40 Years as a Perfectionist How to become a better perfectionist: The three most effective ways to be perfect